Are manners still a thing? Serious question. Do people not say please and thank you anymore? I notice more and more that manners just seem to be absent from daily life. Maybe it’s me and I’m just old fashioned perhaps it’s not the ‘in’ thing to use manners anymore.
Growing Up
When I was younger, manners were a big part of growing up. It was expected of me to be polite and I would always, ALWAYS say please and thank you. I still do it now not because as a child it was expected of me but because it’s polite. I couldn’t imagine someone holding open the door for me and just walking through it without acknowledgment or thanks. Where does this sense of entitlement from people grow?
I’m not saying that I would pass finishing school with flying colours or that I deserve a medal for being polite but at the very least I remember to say please and thank you and not just out of habit because it’s the right thing to do.
A New Generation
Now before I begin talking about the new generation of children and manners I want to stress that the majority of times I witness a lack of manners it’s in a grown adult. Someone who wants something from me but omits a please entirely or when they receive something don’t even say thanks. It does not go unnoticed. It’s probably because of adults not using their manners that the future generation is using them less and less. I hear so many parents that say:
‘We don’t force our children to use manners.’
On this point, I agree you should not ‘force’ your child to use manners. Forcing someone to do anything will not encourage or inspire them in the future. I do think that teaching your child about manners and when to use them is important though. There is no shame in a child showing gratitude and it’s entirely free with little effort. For me it’s these small lessons that they learn that goes on to help them respect the world around them.
Of course there are situations where a child may omit manners because they are so excited and swept up in the moment. Using your manners isn’t just about saying the right words you can show gratitude in a number of ways which is why it irritates me so much when adults don’t.
Maybe I’m Old – Maybe Manners Don’t Matter
I am willing to accept that perhaps I am just getting old and maybe manners aren’t a ‘thing’ anymore. It’s a possibility that not saying please and thank you is acceptable now and my way and view is wrong. I will still bring my children up to use their manners even if the world around them chooses not to.
Do you think manners are important? Have you witnessed a decline in people using them? Does it bother you?
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Mo
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